If You're Happy And You Know It...

Long long ago when I was a kid I learnt this in my kindergarten. Ever since I have been tapping to this tune. I still know the words and tune by heart and I'm trying to not let this feeling fade away.

I was always a very happy-go-lucky kind of a child. My parents were unconventional and I can say they were quite ahead of their times. According to them there was never a dull moment in the house until I was there. My father never stopped us from trying new things. He always used to tell me and my sister " I will not be there with you both in all situations so you have to decide your wrong and right. Be confident and never be afraid of facing challenges". His words still sometimes echo into my ears. Although he was never a very typical over possessive or extra caring kinds but his unusual thinking and way of living has given many lessons to learn. 

Life is long! And it's even longer if you are not HAPPY! If you  read quotes on "happiness" you must have read  "Happiness Is A State Of Mind". How to be in that state or how to sustain if you have already reached your destination of happiness, is not much written about. Life is never what we want it to be. You never get anything easily especially if you are longing something to happen. It has it's own course and time to deliver. Lower expectations bring higher contentment. Higher contentment makes  an equal equation with HAPPINESS. I know it's easier said than done but not that difficult also to practice. Once you start accepting things the way they are life becomes easier. Having said that doesn't mean one should stop dreaming or aspiring because that is the key to motivate oneself to move ahead. But don't also try to change everything which your destiny brings for you. Embrace it and empower yourself with happiness to face it fearlessly.

There will be times when people around you or in your life won't like you or love you the way you love them or you want them to love you back. Take it as a learning. I have learnt through my own experiences in life that I am not meant to please everyone. If someone does not like me I cannot dislike myself for that matter. They don't like me for their own reasons which are well known to them. What I do, belongs to me. Believing what others are saying and not your heart, will always make you unhappy. Learn to believe in yourself. The other day my daughter came back from school crying. When I got to know the reason of her sadness I couldn't stop laughing. One of her classmate said bad things about her and she was called names. As a kid of course it was difficult on her part to be indifferent to her classmate's comments. So I asked her a very simple question. I asked her "how do you see yourself as a person?" She looked at me and said "definitely not what she (her classmate) has said about me. I'm a very good girl who cares for everyone and doesn't hurt anybody in my class." I was happy to see that she is at least aware about who she is. She could explain it to me very well. Then I told her "when you know who you are, you should believe in yourself and should strongly ignore whatever your classmate has said." She is mere a seven year old kid so she will learn self sustenance with time. I have also learnt this very late in my life and I have really learnt it the hard way. This incident shows how things, people, circumstances affect the feeling of HAPPINESS in us. I also ask myself the same question if I get into such situations and believe me, no one can take away my happiness from me. 

We all keep moving in our lives. Sometimes slow, sometimes fast and a few times we take baby steps also. On this adventurous journey of life we smile, laugh, learn, fall, cry, stand, and that is how we go ahead. We meet many co-travellers, with some we stay longer and with some shorter. Rest we leave behind and keep moving on with our chosen ones. So it's all up to you whom you choose to be your voyagers on your voyage. If people around you, like you, love you, accept you the way you are and without judging you they respect your decisions, life will seem shorter to share and return their love. And on the other hand if you are critically judged for every small thing you say or do, told to give up everything you like doing, pretend to be someone else who you actually are not and if always you are made to feel belittled about yourself and your identity, life will definitely become a burden and unhappiness will get all around you. So elimination and selection is a very integral part of happy living. If you are good, many would want to pull you down. If you are still moving, many would try to reign your free spirit. But when the going gets tough the tough get going!!

I am living a happy life and dancing on the tune, not alone but with my children dancing along with me.

HAPPY READING :)